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In today’s episode, we have the opportunity to sit down and have a great conversation with Debbie Lucas, also known as  “The Joy Alchemist”.

Debbie’s mission is to help women confidently prioritize their joy without guilt, release self-doubt, and step into their authentic power. Through her journey from social work to transformational coaching, Debbie guides others to heal, build unshakable self-worth, and live in true alignment. She believes that joy is our birthright and that with the right tools and mindset, anyone can break free from old patterns and live a more empowered life.

Why Do So Many of Us Get Stuck in People-Pleasing and Guilt?

People-pleasing is a pattern that shows up in so many lives. It often starts with wanting to be liked, to keep the peace, or to avoid conflict. Over time, saying “yes” when the heart says “no” becomes second nature. For many, it’s about making everyone else happy, even if it means putting their needs last. The guilt that follows is heavy and familiar. Saying no, taking a break, or putting yourself first can feel wrong, even when needed most.

This guilt isn’t just a passing feeling. It’s often rooted in childhood lessons or cultural beliefs that say a “good person” always puts others first. The result? Exhaustion, resentment, and a sense of being stuck. Many people end up feeling responsible for everyone else’s happiness, while their own dreams and well-being take a back seat.

Breaking the Cycle: What Recovery Really Looks Like

Letting go of people-pleasing is possible, but it’s rarely a straight path. Many people describe the process as a series of phases—sometimes feeling empowered, other times wanting to withdraw and regroup. Setting boundaries can bring discomfort and even fear of losing relationships. There are moments of doubt, but also moments of clarity and relief as self-worth begins to grow.

Some have shared that as they started saying “no” and prioritizing self-care, the guilt became even stronger at first. Over time, though, these small acts of self-advocacy built up confidence and a sense of freedom. The journey often includes learning to sit with discomfort, challenging old beliefs, and building new habits of self-compassion.

Why This Episode Matters

This episode is for anyone who feels weighed down by the need to make everyone else happy or who struggles with guilt for wanting something more. If you feel stuck in the cycle of people-pleasing, this conversation will show you that you’re not alone—and that change is possible.

We talk about:

  • Why people-pleasing is so common and how guilt keeps us stuck
  • The real impact of always putting others first on happiness, health, and relationships
  • Practical steps to break free, including setting boundaries and practicing self-compassion
  • Debbie’s honest story of transformation, and how you can start your own journey to joy and self-worth

It is possible to reclaim your power, heal old wounds, and experience more joy—without guilt.

Time Stamps:
  • 03:07 The Transformation Journey of Debbie Lucas: Becoming the Joy Alchemist
  • 11:27 People-Pleaser Patterns and Internal Challenges
  • 19:28 Joy is Our Birthright & Forgiveness as Self-Freedom
  • 26:48 Breaking the Loop: Challenging the Old Self to Grow
  • 30:08 Staying Optimistic: Daily Practices for Joy and Resilience
  • 35:54 Spiritual Growth & Living in the Now
  • 39:09 A Message People Need to Hear
  • 43:14 Where to Connect with Debbie Lucas
Deep Thinking:

The journey to reclaiming your power and self-worth and living with joy is not about grand gestures. It’s about the small, daily choices and moments of awareness that slowly build a new foundation for your life. Healing and joyful living begin with the tiniest actions—ones you can start right now, wherever you are.

Step Back, Reflect, Take Action 
  • Reflect on a recent moment when you said “yes” to something you didn’t honestly want. What was driving that response—fear of disappointing others, habit, or something else? Notice how often this pattern shows up in your daily life. Awareness is the first step to change.
  • Write about what self-worth means to you. Ask yourself: “If I believed I was worthy just as I am, how would I show up differently today?” Let your thoughts flow without judgment. This simple prompt can help uncover old beliefs and open space for new possibilities.
  • Pick one tiny boundary you can set today. It could be as simple as taking five minutes for yourself without checking your phone, or saying “no” to an extra task you don’t have energy for. Celebrate this small step—each act of self-respect builds your confidence and joy.

Remember, the journey to reclaiming your power and self-worth, the joy as your birthright, isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about rediscovering the real you that’s always been there beneath the layers of doubt, guilt, and people-pleasing. No matter how small, every step you take is a return to your authentic self.

You are not meant to live stuck or limited by old stories. The power to heal, forgive, and choose joy is already inside you. When you honor your true self and trust your journey, you become truly unstoppable.

So keep showing up, keep choosing yourself, and let your authentic light shine. The world needs the unstoppable, real you.

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